Connor and Pokora
What are the similarities between C/M?
1. Their is a non-directive helping relationship
2. Their is a relationship of trust
3. There are agreed confidentiality boundaries
4. The C/M has developed helping skills, including active listening, support&challenging
5. Client&Mentee learning and development are accelerated
6. The focus is work and career related issues
7. The C/M understands the client or mentee organization or context
8. There are valued outcomes for the client or mentee related to work or career
9. The client or mentee becomes more productive in their work and life
10. Client or mentee autonomy is encouraged and dependency discourage
11. Their is on going review of the helping process
What are differences between C/M.
A. 1. C often short term or fixed duration
2. M can be long term relationship
B. 1. C may or may not have similar backgrounds
2. M often has similar professional background
C. 1. C focuses on client resources/self development
2. M shares experiences and knowledge when appropriate
D. 1. C addresses specific issues
2. M addresses ongoing career development
E. 1. C may be peer, external or different profession
2. M often more senior internal role model
F. 1. C person being helped is often referred to as client
2. M person being helped is often referred to as a mentee
Two Key Principles
1. Learning Relationship : is a heart of change. The central principle is that learning, change and transformation occur through building relationships. In dialogue, there is listening with an open mind and asking questions which build shared understanding. The importance is that two people are engaged with one another, they relate to one another, and if the coaching and mentoring are effective, they connect with one another.
2. Client: sets the agenda and is resourceful. Centre stage in the learning relationship is the client and their agenda. The effective C/M works with the client to help them clarify what they want and how they will achieve their aims. The importance is that the C/M helps them to know that they are the centre stage and being focus of attention. It allows them to be engaged and become a partner, with a sense of purpose, and believing the Coaching or mentoring will be a success.
Know Yourself:
I would apply this in the real world by eliminating the too much of what I think verses what God knows. I’m learning that everyone is different and we all see things differently.